Choices

To me, the greatest asset we have is the ability to choose.  We struggle with this, wanting to deny the responsibility for our choices and the fallout that occurs because of them, but at the end of the day, we choose every step we take.   If we accept that, there is no room for blame or judgement.  I choose.  Wisely or unwisely, consciously or not, I make a decision and reap the outcome.  My choices are made based on my priorities.    I can, in reality, do anything I want to do.  The possible consequences provide me with limitations.  To say I have to work in a job I hate is a lie. I can leave at any time.  Often the reason one doesn’t is that the financial consequences are greater than the dislike of the job.  Same thing in staying in a relationship that is no longer fulfilling.  We have choices in every aspect of our lives.  If we are honest with ourselves we accept that and stop blaming other people or God or circumstances.  We stop hating authority figures and realize that we can live whatever way we want to but the cost may be higher than we want to pay.

The most important choice I make is my choice of attitude.  I believe all circumstances are neutral.  I can choose my attitude regarding them.  If I choose acceptance, peace and gratitude my avenues open up easily.  If I cling to my wants and rail at the fact that my desired outcomes are not happening I can stress and fill my body with damaging hormones and waste my energy bemoaning my fate or I can see what I can do with what I have.

That is not to say that we have no control over our lives or our goals.  It means we have complete control.  I have discovered that when I set a goal I should choose the essence of what I want, not the form.  A good example of that was my deep desire for a communal space where I could be with my family and other like-minded folks and have a healing space where we could help others and grow our own food and provide a place of beauty and peace.  I have wanted that for many years and it was a deep disappointment to me to see the opportunity come and go several times without achieving it.  Now I see something different.  We are not on the same property but Lauranne and Peter both have properties that provide some of those things.  Casaroma provides some as well.   The essence of the dream has been met in its own form and I know a strong sense of gratitude that the avenue has been created and is serving its purpose for so many people.   Communal living centres are springing up everywhere as others look toward this lifestyle

As I continue to provide the steady vibration of home, of safety, of assurance that all is well, others can come in whatever way to share it and to heal.

How amazing!  I would never have imagined this form, yet it is based on my choices and the choices of others who share my dream